I was at a lovely MOPS meeting today — first one in over a year — and I am so happy about the wonderful ladies I have been grouped with! We had a fantastic conversation! The theme was bravery. How can we be brave as mothers? Well, honestly, the first thing I thought of was getting up my nerve to play tackle football with my boys. Silly, I know. Glad I didn’t say it at the meeting!
But, I did listen to a lot of what the other moms were saying. There was some great discussion, especially centered around our self-worth as mothers. What are we doing? What should we be doing? What is our job exactly? How do we balance being a caregiver/housekeeper/chef etc…? One of our fabulous leaders threw out this question: What do you do to hold on to your identity?
I was totally befuddled by the last question. I’ve always been stumped by this question. That seems terrible to admit. Actually, it pains me a little to admit it — kinda embarrassing. Today, was no different, but I did have the added help of having many other moms right there who were answering the question for themselves. I listened.
Another question came: What are you passionate about?
Well, that helps! That’s an easier question to answer, I think. I thought.
So, I listened some more. Everyone at the table seemed to be passionate about whatever their career choice was.
My career choice was to be a teacher. But, I’ve often thought that I don’t want that to be my identity. I want more than that. There has to be more to me than just my career.
But, that’s it! I am passionate about teaching. It doesn’t matter what. I teach math, reading, gymnastics, art, science, cooking, anything. I just love to teach people stuff! I loved teaching my students. I loved teaching adults. I love teaching my kids. It makes me feel like I am worth something, because I am helping someone, giving them knowledge or skills.
And here’s where the light bulb really went off for me today. It bothers me so much to send my son to school all day, everyday, because my passion is teaching. My identity resides in teaching my sons. What am I worth as a mother, if I don’t teach my children?My identity is teaching and helping others. If there are two people on this earth who I want to share my passion with, it’s my sons.