It’s so interesting how things happen. My husband and I had a conversation last night about how sometimes we think we’re being too hard on the kids, asking them to do too much, but then it always turns out that they can do it — that they are capable – and they are often proud of themselves for doing it on their own. Despite the obvious abilities of our kids, we still doubt ourselves, especially when they are fussing, crying or even screaming at us.
We’ve all seen charts and such that are “appropriate” chores for kids by age. Personally, I really like those charts. My husband is really into charts and graphs, and I make fun of him for it, but secretly, I love charts too — most especially ones that get my kids to do chores around the house!
The charts help me, but mostly my kids show me what they are capable of on a daily basis. Just the other day, I asked my oldest son to strip the sheets off the guest bed and put them in the washer. A bit later, he came downstairs and I questioned him on what he’d accomplished. He said he’d gotten everything in the washer and started it! (He did forget the soap, but hey, that’s a really good start.) I am not planning to start making my kids do their own laundry, but it is nice to know that on days when we are preparing for guests to stay overnight, he can help get the guest bedroom ready for their arrival.
Last night, during the conversation with my husband, I commented that I am so proud of the boys that they can both, at a young age, make their beds, get dressed, and put their pjs in the laundry all before they come down for breakfast. And, they do this everyday WITHOUT any reminders!
So this morning, our oldest boy, comes down, without having done his chores (making bed, pjs in laundry and flushing toilet — not huge tasks). I simply reminded him, and he absolutely freaked out.
Didn’t I just comments about how awesome he is at doing these things?
I totally jinxed myself.
But, either way, I am still sticking to my guns. They can do it. There is no reason why they shouldn’t. I am really proud of what they are capable of. (But, I am exasperated when tantrums erupt because of simple reminders.)